Tasting Shoe Leather

I have a problem.   I have a tendency to talk faster than I can think.   This gets me in trouble.  Not all the time, but some of the time.  I get started, think I’m being funny, or think that everyone realizes I’m just kidding and being sarcastic.  Every once in a while, something I say really gets to someone.  Usually not in a way that I meant, but that’s irrelevant, isn’t it?

I take full responsibility for all the stupid things that come out of my mouth that aren’t nearly as funny as I think they’re going to be.  I just wish I could learn.   

Because I really don’t want to hurt people’s feelings, and I don’t want them to be mad at me.  

Also, I honestly am almost never trying to make some sort of subtle point.  I feel like people think I’m trying to say something more than what I am.   I’m very much a speak my mind type of person, so I don’t really allude to things.   I’m not trying to imply a damn thing.   That’s why it’s so frustrating when I realize that someone has heard something in what I said because I’m a pretty straight forward kind of person.   But I’m not trying to make any sort of excuses.   I’ve been insensitive, and I own that.

So, I guess I just need to learn to slow down a little bit.   In every possible situation, I need to learn to think about how what I’m saying is going to sound to someone else.  Anyone else, really.   

If you think this is about you, then I probably said something really thoughtless to you at some point.  It wouldn’t surprise me, because I really am beginning to think that I’m a total moron.   At any rate, I apologize.  I am very truly deeply sorry.   

So here’s to learning to think before I speak.   And knowing when to keep my mouth shut.   

And to no more sucking on my feet.

Just sayin’.

Author: peggyluwho

What do you want to know? I'm a California native, and right now, I live 6 miles from where I was born. I'm single. I'm a feminist.

4 thoughts on “Tasting Shoe Leather”

  1. I guess we all do this from time to time… I am not a mean person… and sometimes I also open my mouth and people get offended.. I’ve realised that mainly its their own stuff coming up, and they think i’m making a dig, when really, i’m just talking out my bum. Those that matter to me, and understand me… and are important to me, understand these things about me… and they love me for it! People should love you for your frankness… your openness, your honesty 🙂
    I’m sure that everyone has been misconstrued at some point! lol. Aren’t reactions interesting?

  2. Thanks Bojinx. I certainly hope that you’re right.

    I have added you to my blogroll, because I like your word of the day.


  3. Me TOO!!! It’s just the worst when it happens. I brood on it for weeks, sometimes months or years, depending on the severity of the offense. And most of the time I don’t even know that I did it until some kind third-party tells me. I’m glad I’m not alone here. Also, I think a lot of the time you’re right about it really being about people’s own insecurities rather than what you actually said.

    Found you through bitchphd. Gotta love the smart feministing.

  4. I think it’s somewhere in the middle . . . like I should know better what my friends are sensitive about.

    But . . . you know, then I’d be perfect and not human at all.

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